ANNULMENT – CATHOLIC DIVORCE?
Since my first blog post was about marriage, I thought I’d
spend a little bit of time talking about annulments. First of all, annulment is NOT Catholic
divorce. A divorce acknowledges the
existence of a legal, civil marriage which has now been irretrievably
broken. As such, all of the legal
entanglements that go with marriage have to be dealt with so that civil and
legal authorities know how to deal with each separating party. Divorce requires agreement (either bipartisan
or court-imposed) on custody, care and funding of children; disposition of
property; disposition of other assets; potential for ongoing financial support
of one party by the other - all in recognition of what once existed but now no
longer does.
An annulment in the Catholic Church, however, says that a
valid Christian marriage never existed between the two parties. Since it never existed, both parties are
therefore free to marry again in the Church and contract new, hopefully-valid
Christian marriages. The Church does not
annul marriages in a cavalier fashion, however; it takes work. Here’s some of the rationale.
First of all, the Church presumes all marriages entered into
by two baptized Christians and solemnized by a Christian minister of some sort
are, in fact, valid Christian marriages.
For the Church to decide otherwise and grant an annulment, proof to the
contrary is required. So, in the
annulment process, testimony as to the state of the relationship prior to and
at the time of the marriage is required from at least the partner applying for
annulment. Every effort is made to
obtain the testimony of the other partner, as well, who may well view events
much differently. Supporting testimony
from witnesses who had solid knowledge of both parties and their relationship
prior to and at the time of marriage is also required. The local (arch)diocesan Tribunal will
evaluate the evidence and render a decision as to whether the marriage was
valid at its inception or not. Please
note that adultery by one or both parties AFTER the marriage is not grounds for
annulment. What matters is what was in
the mind of one or both parties at the inception of the presumably-Christian
marriage.
Issues such as hidden addictions (gambling, alcohol, drugs,
pornography, computer games, etc.) could be grounds for annulment. A clearly stated intent by one or both parties
to others that he/she will never have children is another. Maintaining an illicit relationship on the
side while getting married is proof of lack of the proper intent. There are other grounds, but those are best
reviewed with the person to whom your parish refers you as you seek annulment.
My point, which I hope isn’t lost here, is that the Church so
values the sacramental value of Christian marriage, that is the pouring out of
the grace of God inherent in the marriage covenant of the two baptized
Christians, that the Church:
- Presumes the validity of all Christian marriages prima facie and absent solid testimony to the contrary.
- Offers annulments so that those desiring to live in a sacramental marriage can still do so, despite entering into an invalid marriage relationship earlier in life.
tSo, to repeat: an annulment is NOT
Catholic divorce. It is a process, often
painful, by which the circumstances of a presumably-valid Christian marriage
relationship are examined and either found valid or not. Not every annulment that is sought is
granted. That is why, if you are planning
to get married in the Church, you should take advantage of all that your local
parish offers in terms of marriage preparation.
This is such a clear explanation of the meaning of a Catholic annulment. It took me years to muster up the courage to approach it myself, but once the annulment was granted, I cried. There was such an immense feeling of freedom and release. If the good Lord ever sees fit to include a loving man in my journey, I look forward to joining him in the sacrament of marriage.
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